5 Ways to Get People to Actually Listen to You

5 Ways to Get People to Actually Listen to You

By Maria Tabaka

Your audience must be able to feel and experience your communications.


1. Keep your mouth shut--for a couple of moments.

Don't say anything substantive until you have an audience connection. Note that their first impression is visual, not verbal. . You can gain command by the way you carry yourself, before you even open your mouth. The body speaks before the mouth is open. Avoid rocking, looking down, and fidgeting. Stand and walk with confidence.

2. Get your audience engaged.

Get the eyeballs looking up before you say anything. Move with quiet confidence and smile, inviting people to look up and pay attention. Invite your audience to engage on the emotional level by offering a warm greeting. You might even ask them a question that prompts a response. It can be simple, as in: "How is everybody doing today?"

3. Grab their attention to make it memorable.

People remember the very first substantive that you say. Once you have their attention, jump right in to the most important thing you have to say.

4. Use verbal cues.

Use attention-provoking signals when you move from one part of the speech to the next. For instance, you might verbally number your key points or use other verbal signals like "Let's move on" or "My next topic is..."  Always give the audience verbal cues to look up at you.

5. Recap what matters.

Take all of the substantive points from your talk and group them all together at the very end of the presentation. Remember your provoking signal and say something like, "In summary," then recap everything from your presentation that matters the most.

10 Brainy Tips for Hooking Your Reader

10 Brainy Tips for Hooking Your Reader from Psychology Today by Susan K Perry, Ph.D.

1. Something must be at stake for the protagonist from the first page, and your reader must be aware of what it is. Something must be happening right away so the reader wants to know what will happen next.

2. Focus is crucial, meaning the writer must make clear what the protagonist has to overcome internally to accomplish her goal.

3. Write what you know emotionally. Tap into what you know about human nature to make your story feel real. Does your protagonist feel shame? Surely you have at one time too.

4. Write character bios, but focus it on their messy flaws, without allowing them any privacy. Aim to find their motivation, to learn (and have your characters learn) what really causes them to do what they do,

5. Avoid too many sensory details. There has to be a reason for each detail, and the reader has to be able to figure it out.

6. Intrigue matters. "If we don't know there's intrigue afoot, then there is no intrigue afoot." Readers enjoy going back to reconsider hints and events in the light of a twist or "reveal," but not if there are hidden things that have been going on all along that are not at least hinted at.

7. Beware of misplaced digressions, whether small or large. Digressions should provide what a reader needs to know at that moment. "Can you answer the 'And so?' to everything in the story? Flashbacks stop the action and must only be used to provide needed information the reader needs now

8. Back off whenever the conflict peaks, so the reader can process it. Use subplots for this. This point and the previous one may seem to conflict, but they don't. A subplot after an intense plot point should eventually come back to join the story and help the reader make more sense of it.

9. Escalate the trouble. Make sure everything that can go wrong does.

10. Your protagonist must suffer embarrassment and other untidy emotions, even if you'd rather protect her. By protecting her, you may be trying to protect yourself, fearing readers will be alerted to the fact that you know more about the dark side than you want them to suspect.

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